Eileen Chang, a Libra.
Photo-Illustration: by Preeti Kinha; Photos: Getty Images, Wikimedia Commons
On Sunday evening, a new moon in Libra asks you to notice how your relationships may have swung out of balance recently: Are you giving more than you’re getting in return? Have your friends supported and cared for you in ways you haven’t reciprocated? No relationship is ever perfect, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make yours better. Under this moon, make a plan to set things right. Then, late Thursday night, Venus enters Libra, lending added support to your Libra-season quest for social harmony. The goal isn’t to keep score so you can precisely balance the emotional books. Rather, try to take a big-picture look at who is valued and who is left out, who gets more attention and who gets ignored. Only when you recognize a problem does it become possible to remedy it. Cooperation and mutual care are sustainable; you just have to put in the work.
You think looking into your past is unnecessary at best, self-indulgent at worst. It’s more productive (and interesting) to focus on the here and now than to dwell on chapters that have closed behind you. For the most part, this attitude serves you well, but sometimes the call of the past is irresistible. This week, don’t give yourself a hard time if you hate it. You’ll find value in looking back on earlier seasons of your life, feel compassion toward your younger self, and experience regret for the phases and relationships you’ve outgrown. You aren’t being silly or sentimental. Hindsight will offer the clarity you’ve been seeking.
You’re constantly striving to learn and discover, to deepen your insight into the universe. But occasionally, you worry you’ve been too successful. Lately, everything around you has felt too familiar, the world suddenly devoid of its old mysteries and wonders. So this week, your task is to find a way to make it interesting again. This could mean seeking out unknown people and places, subjects and activities that make you feel like a wide-eyed beginner. Or it could mean striving to see your life from a different perspective. Either way, the world (and your life) will excite you again, and right now, that’s what you need most.
When you’re trying to spark a new romantic relationship or strengthen a long-standing one, your natural tendency is to turn on your charm, to put yourself out there and make your feelings clear. You work hard to bring light into loved ones’ lives, and you’re good at it. And although it may seem counterintuitive, you can also strengthen relationships by receiving — by encouraging and accepting the generosity of others. People like to receive attention, but they like to feel needed too. So don’t refuse their kindness or pretend you don’t need it. Let them brighten yours life.
Remember that you need to take risks and test your limits once in a while. Otherwise, you’d never know how much you’re capable of or even who you really are. The problem is that this requires pushing yourself, taking big leaps, and sometimes failing. It’s not exactly fun, but it’s not a waste of time either. You’re finding what you’re willing to put up with and what you aren’t. You’re discovering what you can do without and what you really need. This week, try to trust that you’re learning. You might not notice it yet, but you’re getting more powerful all the time.
Despite knowing better on an intellectual level, a part of you wonders whether working harder is the solution to your problems. When things don’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you worry maybe it’s your fault for not trying hard enough. At best, this kind of thinking keeps you motivated, stops you from giving up too soon. But more often, it only serves to stress you out. This week, if a project or a relationship feels like a constant struggle, take that as a sign to ease off, not push harder. You shouldn’t have to work so hard all the time.
You know well how important it is to be open to criticism. Inviting input has made your work stronger; listening to your friends when they disagree with you has made your life better and more beautiful than it would have been otherwise. Nevertheless, this week, remember that all opinions aren’t equally valid, nor is all guidance equally helpful. If you tried to follow everyone’s suggestions, you’d end up anxious and lost. Heed the advice that you judge is useful, that’s offered in good faith. Don’t feel guilty for ignoring the rest.
It sometimes feels as if your whole life is dedicated to fixing things, to sorting out misunderstandings, calming rocky relationships, working on yourself for the sake of others. Improving the world is critical, beautiful work. But this week, take a break from adjusting and correcting and improving. You don’t need to make your surroundings perfect before you can be happy, and you don’t need to erase all your flaws in order to be a good person. People love you; you’re allowed to love yourself, too.
Possessions, relationships, ideas — once someone or something enters your life, you’re often reluctant to let it go. If you had to choose, you’d much prefer holding on too tight to walking away too soon. Eventually, though, it’s impossible to keep going, to keep moving through the world, meeting people, having new experiences, without letting something else go. While there’s comfort in keeping every item you’ve ever loved close to you, this week, don’t hold on just for the sake of it. You might find unexpected relief in those small endings, in releasing what you no longer need.
This week, you’re going to be hesitant to face interpersonal conflict directly — not because you’re afraid of it but because life is already challenging enough and you are tired. It takes far less energy to ignore unpleasant news than to reckon with it; it’s almost always less draining to walk away than to stay and fix things. But the easiest course of action isn’t invariably the best one, and avoiding difficulty or awkwardness now will only hurt you in the long run. Honest (if uncomfortable) conversations will be well worth it in the end.
Some people hide negative or complicated feelings about their loved ones, acknowledging only the emotions that are good and sweet. Others, though, are the opposite: entirely comfortable discussing gripes and frustrations but surprisingly reticent when it comes to openly expressing affection. This week, don’t take for granted that the people you care about most know how you’re feeling. Your love is deep and genuine, but that’s not to say others can always perceive it. No matter how silly or unnatural or unnecessary it may seem, try to vocalize it.
You’re self-aware enough to notice when there are words going unsaid, when others aren’t fully expressing how they feel. Whether it’s because they’re being intentionally deceptive or withholding or, more likely, they’re afraid nobody will care, you’re justified in reading between the lines. The problem is that this week you won’t be as good at it as you usually are. Your normally sharp reading on the situation is a little scrambled. So for now, if you don’t understand, if there’s subtext you’re wondering about, don’t assume. You’re better off asking straight out.
Sometimes you worry people like you only because of what you can do for them, give them. You can see they welcome the support, kindness, and advice you offer, but do they value it you? Do they reciprocate? When they look at you, do they recognize how funny and charming and cool you are? Try to trust that your friends and partner genuinely care about you because they do, and they’re probably already showing you in a hundred small ways. But don’t be afraid to ask for some reassurance if you need it. You’re not foolish for needing love.
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